How to Deal With NOT Getting that Promotion
So the window for that promotion came...and then it went. Many people can empathize with this situation, and we're here to help you through it. It can be a tricky and emotional situation, especially if you feel as though you truly deserved to be recognized and awarded for your performance. So before you throw your hands in the air, say a few less than choice words, and storm out of the office, read our tips for how to work through this and prevail.
Redirect Your Emotions
Emotions can get the best of us if we let them. When a disappointment like this rolls around you need to have a plan for redirection ready. When you feel those feelings of rage, disappointment, regret, and sadness creeping up, it's time to kick that redirection plan into gear. The first thing you must do is cool off! Don't say or do anything in the heat of the moment. If you've typed an angry email draft, delete it! Find a way to relax and distract yourself for a few days. Make plans with friends, treat yourself to a massage, and do anything you possibly can to relax. Once you become less emotional about the situation, and can talk about it logistically without getting upset, then you can begin to address it.
Meet With Your Boss
Now that you have calmed down, you can plan to have a meeting with your boss. This is not a meeting where you should “confront” your boss or express “anger”. This is a meeting for you to understand more about your position in the company, and calmly exchange viewpoints regarding your performance and progress. This is a chance for you to learn why the decision was made to not give you a promotion. Perhaps there were other factors you are unaware of that went into the decision. Maybe the company's budget changed, and more than one promotion was cut. Be open, and listen. The idea here is not to try and change your boss's mind, but rather to show your boss that you are on top of your work, and ready to do what it takes to get the promotion next time around. If you are able to have a positive conversation, your next chance at a promotion may be closer than you think. If your boss's decision was truly an unfair one, then you may be forced to consider other opportunities. That's not always a bad thing. Perhaps you have done what you can at your current company, and you're getting the signal that moving on might be your next step. Approach this slowly and steadily. Do your research, and when the time is right, apply.